Below are some resources to help couples grow in their understanding of what it means to be in a long-term, committed relationship, and to practice relating to their spouse or partner.

Books

• Alain de Button, The Course of Love: A Novel. Simon & Schuster, 2016.

• Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving. Harper Perennial Modern Classics, 2019.

• Lucy & Dennis Guernsey, Real Life Marriage. Hope Publishing House, 2011.

• Stephen Mitchell, Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time. W. W. Norton & Company, 2003.

• Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Harper Books, 2017.

• Judith Viorst, Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow. Simon & Schuster, 1998.

Audio & Visual

• Esther Perel’s podcast “Where Should We Begin?”

• Orna Guralnik’s “Couples Therapy,” on Showtime, Hulu, Amazon Prime, and Roku.

Practical Guides

• The School of Life, The Couple’s Workbook.

• The School of Life, The Marriage Box.

• The School of Life, Pillow Talk.

• The Gottman Institute, Love Map & Open-Ended Card Decks.